it's not you, it's me

Matthew: We have a problem...

Melissa: Is it me?

Matthew: No, no, no. It's not you, it's me. I'm not attracted to you.

Melissa: Oh.

Matthew: Now, I don't want you to take this as a rejection, but as an acceptance between two people whose needs are profoundly incompatible. And you're not alone. I devote an entire chapter to this in my book.