the usual, ordinary

to address; to speak to / to start speaking

make friends / enjoy, be fond of

not ... at all

even if ...,...cannot

very, exceedingly, awfully / (before a negative form) not at all, at all, by no means

always, invariably, all the time / usually / (with a negative verb) never

lighthearted, casual, relaxed

lightheartedness, casualness, relaxedness

he / distal demonstrative, something far off removed from both speaker and listener: that / boyfriend