pin someone down while twisting their arm

to win

to be twisted, to be wrenched, to be distorted, to be bent

other person / partner / opponent

turn upside down / lie low / cast one's eyes down

(sports) match, game

(informal) to have "won" a match on a psychological or personal level despite losing to all appearances

to win when doing something

(slang) "no-one wins except for X": X is the best

he / distal demonstrative, something far off removed from both speaker and listener: that / boyfriend